Are you about to meet the Chinese parents? Are you worried about how to make a good impression?
If so, never fear, the basic cheat sheet of how to woo Chinese parents is here!
I initially threw this together for my non-Chinese significant other as I have very traditional Chinese parents and noticed that friends of mine were in the same boat, so I thought I would share. Hopefully it’s helpful!
1. Never Stop Pouring Tea
Chinese tea is usually drunk out of tiny teacups. As a sign of respect, you should park yourself near the teapot (or just grab it) and keep everyone’s – ESPECIALLY the parents’ – teacups full at ALL times. There should never be an (god forbid) empty teacup for longer than 3 seconds.
I don’t care if you’re trying to expound on your five-year plan under one parent’s intense, skeptical scrutiny. If the other parent’s teacup is almost empty or completely empty, use your peripheral vision to reach for the teapot and fill ‘er up.
Anticipate. Keep an eye on all the teacups on the table at all times.
Pro tip: Once you’ve poured tea, remember to hover. The parent may immediately drink all the tea you just poured and put down an empty teacup. You need to hover and refill so you’ll always withdraw with your task accomplished.
2. Offer Them The Best Food
No matter if you’re at a restaurant or at their home, always offer the best bits of food to the parents. What do I mean by offer? There are several ways: